Bereavement · UK guide · Practical steps

What to Do When
Someone Dies:
A UK Guide

The days and weeks after someone dies involve a strange combination of raw grief and practical administration. This guide covers both — what needs doing, when, and what can wait. You do not have to do everything at once.

Important: This guide covers England and Wales. Scotland and Northern Ireland have different processes for registering deaths and probate. Where processes differ significantly, we note it.

First 24–48 hours

Get the Medical Certificate of Cause of Death

A doctor must issue this. In hospital, the bereavement office handles it. At home, your GP. Without it, nothing else can proceed.

Contact a funeral director

They will collect the body and guide the immediate logistics. You don't have to decide on the funeral yet — that can wait days.

Tell the immediate family

There is no right order. Do what feels manageable. You do not need to tell everyone today.

Give yourself permission to do nothing else

The legal and financial tasks can wait. You are in shock. The forms will still be there tomorrow.

Days 3–7

Register the death

Must happen within 5 days in England and Wales (8 days in Scotland). Done at the local Register Office — book online. Bring the Medical Certificate. You'll receive the Death Certificate (you'll need several copies — order at least 5).

Use the Tell Us Once service

A free government service that notifies DVLA, DWP, HMRC, the Passport Office, and local council in one step. The registrar will give you a reference number. Use it at gov.uk/tell-us-once.

Contact their bank

Accounts are typically frozen when a bank is notified of a death. You'll need a Death Certificate. If you held a joint account, this usually continues.

Locate the will (if one exists)

Check at home, with their solicitor, or search the National Will Register (certainty.co.uk). If there is no will, the estate is distributed under the Rules of Intestacy.

Plan the funeral

No legal time limit in England and Wales. Most funerals happen 2–3 weeks after death. The funeral director will guide you. You do not have to spend a fortune.

Weeks 2–4

Apply for a Grant of Probate (if needed)

Required if the estate is over approximately £5,000 or includes property. Apply at probate.service.gov.uk. Takes 4–16 weeks. Consider a probate solicitor if the estate is complex (costs typically £2,500–£7,500).

Contact insurance companies

Life insurance, home insurance, any protection policies. Death certificates required. Some policies pay out quickly; others take weeks.

Notify pension providers

State Pension stops on death (overpayments must be returned). Private/workplace pensions may have a lump sum or dependant's pension — contact each provider.

Cancel direct debits and subscriptions

Go through their bank statements. Cancel: streaming services, memberships, gym, phone contracts. Some require a Death Certificate; others just need a cancellation request.

Notify HMRC

Their P45 or P60 may be needed. Inheritance Tax (IHT) may apply if the estate exceeds £325,000 (or £500,000 if a family home passes to children). HMRC's bereavement guide: gov.uk/death-and-bereavement.

Months 2–3

Distribute the estate

Once probate is granted and debts are settled, assets can be transferred to beneficiaries. Keep clear records of everything.

Deal with property

If they owned property, it cannot be sold until probate is complete. A probate solicitor or estate agent experienced in probate sales can advise.

Consider your own grief

This is the point at which the shock often wears off and the reality sets in. Many people find support more useful now than in the first weeks. See resources below.

Sort their digital life

Email accounts, social media, online shopping accounts. Meta/Facebook allows memorialisation or removal. Google has an Inactive Account Manager. Apple and Microsoft both have legacy contact processes.

What you do not have to do

Clear the house immediately. There is no legal requirement to do this quickly. Take the time you need.
Respond to every condolence message. A brief acknowledgement when you are ready is enough. People understand.
Decide what to keep. Sorting possessions is an emotionally complex task. It can wait months or longer.
Be strong for everyone. You are grieving too. You are allowed to need support.
Have it all together. Grief is not linear. It does not follow the stages in order. There is no correct way to do this.

UK support and resources

Free

Cruse Bereavement Support

cruse.org.uk · Free phone helpline (0808 808 1677) and local support groups

Free

Marie Curie

mariecurie.org.uk · Practical and emotional support, excellent free guides

Free

The Good Grief Trust

thegoodgrieftrust.org · National map of grief cafes and support groups

Government

Tell Us Once

gov.uk/tell-us-once · Notifies government departments in one step

Government

Probate service

probate.service.gov.uk · Apply for Grant of Probate online

Free

Citizens Advice

citizensadvice.org.uk · Free advice on benefits, debt, legal rights after bereavement

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